If your divorce ends with joint custody of a child, you want to do what is best for the child but may have many questions. You want to avoid mistakes and take steps that increase the happiness of the young person.
A few general tips on the matter can point you in the right direction.
Collaborate on a plan
Working out a solid plan, according to information from Today’s Parent, involves discussing matters with your ex that benefit your child. This process could enlist the services of a trained mediator in such arrangements. The plan should cover specific rules of your co-parenting partnership.
A detailed plan should include such things as where the child will spend each holiday, where the child will spend summer vacations and what rules apply to posting images on social media. The plan will work best if both parents work to adjust it as circumstances change and the child’s interests evolve.
Deal maturely with disagreements
Divorces happen for specific reasons, and that often means that you and your ex do not see eye to eye on all matters. This will likely continue with the philosophy of raising a child.
The rules you want for the child might not work for your former spouse. You might have to let some things slide, but you can still try your best to agree on the most important matters. These critical values could include religious preferences as well as age-appropriate rules for dating or attending parties.
Sharing custody will take time and adjustments. The best interests of the child should take precedence over most other matters.