It can be frustrating and disheartening for you to feel undecided about the possibility of divorce. Nevertheless, giving it some serious thought first is actually a healthy approach. Divorce is a life-changing decision that deserves careful deliberation. It should not be impulsive or come out of a transient state of emotion.
According to Psychology Today, most people experience a “moment of clarity” that lets them know for sure whether divorce is the right decision or if it is worthwhile to go back and try to save the marriage. Asking yourself the following questions may help you reach that moment of clarity.
What keeps you in the marriage?
Are you still in love with your spouse and hope that you can work things out? Are you afraid of the consequences of ending the marriage? Identifying what is keeping you in your current situation can help spur you to a decision.
How do you think your life would look after divorce?
Divorce comes with unexpected changes and challenges. It is difficult to anticipate these ahead of time, especially if you have never divorced before. To form a more realistic picture of what divorce means for your future, you may want to seek the help of a therapist.
How long do you think you can continue living in the current situation?
If nothing changes or improves, how long do you think you can endure the level of unhappiness at which you have been living? The dread of possible years of the same misery may spur you to action.
When you experience your moment of clarity, you may have a physical feeling of relief at having made a decision, one way or the other.