Divorce can be hard on children, but parents in Virginia may help them adjust by ensuring that the children know they are loved and that the divorce is not their fault. Parents should not try to compensate for the divorce or win favoritism by buying a child gifts. Instead, they should focus on building strong memories with their child and building a good co-parenting relationship with the other parent.
Some parents may still feel a great deal of anger during and after the divorce, but they should not let this erupt in front of the children. They should be civil to one another and avoid telling their children negative things about the other parent even when they are true. Instead, they should focus on saying positive things about the other parent or nothing at all. Parents should try to support one another in their role as co-parents, including paying child support on time and being communicative about scheduling.
Parents might need to turn up at some events at the same time, such as graduation, and they should try to get along when this happens. They should also make an effort to avoid disrupting as many aspects of the child’s life as possible after the divorce.
Parents should put their children first during the legal process as well. If they must go to court for a decision on child custody and visitation, the judge’s decision will be based on what is in the best interests of the children. However, parents can also apply this standard if they are trying to negotiate an agreement for child custody and visitation. In most cases, it is considered to be in a child’s best interests to spend time with both parents after divorce.