It’s not uncommon for divorcing parents to have difficulty agreeing on a parenting plan. These challenges can become even worse if one person moves farther away and a new arrangement is needed. When making changes to a parenting plan, there are many pitfalls that each parent can avoid in order to reduce conflict and make things easier for the children.
The important thing to consider when creating or editing a parenting plan is what is in the best interests of the kids. If one parent relocates, each parent might focus on their own needs. For example, the parent who moved might insist on still receiving the same access to the children while the parent who stays in the same location may feel angry at having more responsibilities when it comes to getting children to appointments and extra circular activities.
Distance might create inconveniences for both parents, but dwelling and blaming will only create more animosity. If parents cannot settle the conflicts between them, mediation might be needed to find a solution that works well for everyone. While the situation is different for every family, children might need roots in both communities where their parents live. This means one parent must accept children traveling to the new area.
In many cases, mediation can benefit both parties and their children. An unbiased person acts as a mediator and cannot force a couple to do anything. Some people see litigation as a way to “win” when dissolving a marriage, but mediation allows both people to work out issues and agree on a settlement and parenting plan.